Transformative Steps

Sometimes in life we are confronted with changes/challenges and are not sure what to do or what direction to go in… in those times we need to center ourselves, focus on where are at this very moment. Taking into consideration how we are feeling, who is in our space and what our objective is.
 
We often look at our situation and see only the challenges and obstacles but not really understanding how smart or strong or able we are to overcome anything.  The fear that grabs us is paralyzing.  We are blinded by it and often allow that fear to be the only thing we see.  In moments like these we, standing on the cusp of transformation, we often turn back to what we know instead of becoming or going where we are supposed to be.
 
Instead of going back to a place that we know.  We need to take the step that maybe uncomfortable and may be scary and may be unknown that will lead us to our destiny.
 
Taking this first step doesn’t always guarantee success… it does however guarantee that we will be better.  Often times better is wrapped in failure.  Failure gives us the opportunity to evaluate all aspects of what worked and what didn’t work.

Begin while others are procrastinating
Plan while others are playing
Study while others are sleeping
Work while others are wishing
Prepare while others are daydreaming
Smile while others are frowning
Listen while others are talking
Decide while others are delaying
Save while others are wasting
Persist while others are quitting

1) Give up the toxic people – It is impossible to succeed with negative people around you
2) Give up the need to be liked – no matter what you do there will always be people who won't approve
3) Give up the need to control everything – Understand that some things are up to us, while most things are really not
4) Give up the need to be perfect – Perfectionism  puts too much pressure on you.  You are already good enough.
5) Give up on believing in overnight success – No one, not even Steve Jobs achieved success overnight.
6) Give up on small play - If you don’t DREAM BIG, you will never achieve something big
7) Give up on unhealthy living – Your body is your HOME.

It is very difficult to go where you want to go when you don't know who you are.  While on this journey you need to take a hard look at yourself and analyze who you are.  What matters to you?  What are your core values? What things really matter to you? What makes you laugh? What makes you cry? Why do you do what you do (what drives you)?

Do you understand who you are (or a specific area)?
What do you really know about yourself?
What do you need to know about yourself that you don't already know?
Do you know anyone that is an expert or has more knowledge about than you do?
Where can you find help/support?

What is the difference between sharing and giving
When was the last time you shared something with someone?
Was the item valuable to you/them/both?
When was the last time you gave something to someone?
Was the item valuable to you/them/both?
Are you a river or a reservoir?
Do you share your xxx?
Do you hide/keep your xxx?

What are you committed to?
Who are you committed to?
Why are you committed?
Are you your brother's keeper?

What is your list of important things?
Why are those things important?
What do those things say about you?
What are you willing to do to get what you want?
What will it cost you to get what you want?

How would you define your character?
How would others define your character?
Is what others say about you true?
Have you considered who you are and who you want to be?
Do you need to make some changes?
If it is time to take some steps…get moving.

How would you characterize your attitude?
Is your attitude positive?
Is your attitude negative?
Are people able to effect your character? Why or why not?

What types of conversations do you have?
Who do you talk to?
What do you talk about?
Do you have  conversations that are positive or negative?
How long do you talk about negative things?